Who’s the boss in a marriage relationship?

Have you ever wondered who wears the pants in the family? The man is supposed to be the spiritual leader. Although many husbands say they wear the pants but their wife tells them which ones to put on.

The woman may technically be the spiritual leader because the divine feminine is usually more sensitive and intuitive to things of a spiritual nature. Men just get the final say; maybe because they are more rational while women are prone to run on emotion.

However there are a growing number of men who are so everything their wife tells them because they have overbearing spouses (ballbusters). These types of husbands are typically passive aggressive and probably would have never gotten married if he’d man’ed up.

If this type of guy were to become more assertive, he’d probably get hit with a divorce decree. This could explain the growing number of divorces taking place within the church. Most divorces seem to be initiated by the wives.

Feminism has empowered women beyond traditional roles as a wife. Women are said to outnumber men, possibly a 7:1 ratio. I haven’t looked it up but I have heard it in more than one setting.

Some of the men in church used to joke about how there would be more women in heaven. Duh! Why do you think it’s called heaven? (Jk). 72 virgins? Jk again. Remember Jesus said there would be no marriage or people given in marriage in heaven.

Who wears the pants in the family?

A friend I met in church used to always say, “women, you can’t live with them and you can’t shoot them.” The same friend also said that he wore the pants in the family but his wife picked them out for him.

Nothing could be more truthful. The feminine is more spiritual and has more power in a relationship. The masculine is more stable and level headed and makes the decisions.

In layman’s terms, the man is the leader in a relationship but the woman controls him, or has influence over him. It’s one of those paradoxes in life that will blow your mind.

In conclusion, the secret to finding true love is for a man to find a woman that will make him to what he was already planning on doing in the first place.

How to find your soul mate

Song of Solomon 2:3. . .”As the apple tree among the grove, so is my beloved among the sons.”

Why do so many people get divorced? Is it because marriage and family values is really on the decline? Statistically speaking, with overpopulation there may be as many successful marriages and families as there always were. Possibly more.

Many people admit they rushed into marriage before they got to know themselves and what they really want out of life. Your spouse is your help mate. Therefore if you don’t know what you want in life, it stands to reason you won’t know what you are looking for in a partner.

Then there are people who simply don’t want to get married. They just don’t want to be alone. Or they want to have children and the traditional family seems the right way to do it.

Many people in today’s generation say they don’t want to get married. That’s not to say they won’t since you don’t always control falling in love with someone. I’m pretty sure that even if they purpose not to get married, they have no intention of committing to a life of celibacy.

Nothing is predestined in life. The Bible doesn’t encourage marriage outside of procreation. Life’s most important relationship is with the Creator of the universe, or our true soul mate. It’s possible to be so fulfilled by divine intimacy that we don’t look for someone else on earth to complete us.

Jesus and Paul both said it is better to not marry than get divorce. It is also better to marry than to burn with passion and sleep around. Being unmarried means not having to be burdened by the cares of the world.

True love is hard to find outside of the divine fellowship. For those that believe in the law of attraction, we attract what we really want.

Today’s bible verse is Song of Solomon 2:3 and compares love to finding an apple tree in a grove. Since the feminine is the most spiritually sensitive, “she” probably draws the masculine into the relationship. So much for the man leading since he only wears the pants she tells him to wear.

The man leads by doing what his lady intuitively leads him to do because they are spiritually joined together by God long before they ever walk an aisle, or have sex for that matter. There are other ways to be naked with someone besides physically. More on that in another blog post someday.