A conversation between a sinner and an Evangelical

Human: So God loves me but has to burn me forever if I don’t love him back or believe in the right theology?

Evangelical: yes

Human: that’s not a God anyone wants to know

Evangelical: he will love you unconditionally once you get to know him.

Human: sounds like your typical asshole on this planet

How many people have died at the hands of “unconditional love?”

It’s all dead end

I don’t want to sound all doom and gloom, or worse make people think I have no self-esteem; as if I cared what anyone thinks. I consider myself an optimistic pessimist, because going too far either way can make us out of touch with reality.

If you can’t decide what you want to do with your life, I have some good news. It doesn’t matter in the end because it is all dead end and temporary. Nobody wants to come to the end of their life and wish they had spent more time working.

Don’t get me wrong, life is work but not everything has to be about work and money the way we make it today.  I believe there has to be more to this life than just the here and now and this is why I am convinced that there is a God (metaphorical name for Divine goodness) and a life beyond this one.

Religious texts such as the Bible and even Vedic scriptures have a lot of truth to them, one of these eternal truths being that life is meaningless in the Book of Ecclesiastes.  Many people will hear this and give up in despair but for me this is good news because it means I am free to do whatever with my life (within reason). 

Our purpose in life is to do whatever makes us happy. True happiness has been defined by ancient philosophers as being of service to others.  Life is about service. Making money is good but even spiritual teachers like Dr. Wayne Dyer say it should not be the end goal. Money is simply a medium of exchange, so when we find what makes us happy and pursue it we naturally attract the money we need to finance our life.

There is an old saying that when we do what we love the money follows. Even if we don’t make a lot we will have the wisdom to do more with less (this is better than chasing after money in my opinion). 

The reason we are so obsessed with money, work and material wealth is because we have lost our sense of purpose so we focus on whatever feels the void, which in most cases is money or relationships. We will never be happy if we lose touch with who we are and try to look for what we are missing through other people. 

Who’s the boss in a marriage relationship?

Have you ever wondered who wears the pants in the family? The man is supposed to be the spiritual leader. Although many husbands say they wear the pants but their wife tells them which ones to put on.

The woman may technically be the spiritual leader because the divine feminine is usually more sensitive and intuitive to things of a spiritual nature. Men just get the final say; maybe because they are more rational while women are prone to run on emotion.

However there are a growing number of men who are so everything their wife tells them because they have overbearing spouses (ballbusters). These types of husbands are typically passive aggressive and probably would have never gotten married if he’d man’ed up.

If this type of guy were to become more assertive, he’d probably get hit with a divorce decree. This could explain the growing number of divorces taking place within the church. Most divorces seem to be initiated by the wives.

Feminism has empowered women beyond traditional roles as a wife. Women are said to outnumber men, possibly a 7:1 ratio. I haven’t looked it up but I have heard it in more than one setting.

Some of the men in church used to joke about how there would be more women in heaven. Duh! Why do you think it’s called heaven? (Jk). 72 virgins? Jk again. Remember Jesus said there would be no marriage or people given in marriage in heaven.

Lies from the tablecloth

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The following blog post is about some of the biggest lies we hear in the world. It’s not that the people that tell us these lies are intentionally lying to us; they are sincerely trying to believe the lie themselves. These lies are stuff that we really want to be true but human nature proves otherwise. Not only will I tell you what the lies are, I will also give ideas on how to make it more truthful in your life.

  1. The biggest lie we have heard all of our lives is that size doesn’t matter. Women that say this just don’t want to sound like sluts or make a guy feel bad for not being well-endowed. Although there are other ways to be well-endowed but that is another blog post entirely. You can tell by the jokes about size that it does matter, or they wouldn’t talk about it so much. If you are small, you just have to hope to have something else going for you to help you overcompensate. For example, find someone that is looking for authentic emotional connection over everything else.
  2. The second lie we tell ourselves, or hear others say, is that money isn’t everything. This never makes sense when you have bills to pay. When doing business, money is pretty much everything. Although we probably should value people over money, but that might make us more of a socialist than a capitalist.
  3. While this list is an exhaustive one, I just picked the top three biggest whoppers. The last biggest one on this list is the lie that there is someone for everybody. Meeting someone special is chance a lt of the time. You do have to put yourself out there. But nothing is guaranteed. Life circumstances may cause you to be alone. Better to be alone than to rush into a relationship with the wrong person. Wayne Dyer once said you can never be alone if you like who you are with.

There is the top three biggest lies we heard all of our lives in this world. The list can go on and on but I just picked the most popular ones from off the top of my head. The title is from a System of a Down song, so it was totally random.

Who wears the pants in the family?

A friend I met in church used to always say, “women, you can’t live with them and you can’t shoot them.” The same friend also said that he wore the pants in the family but his wife picked them out for him.

Nothing could be more truthful. The feminine is more spiritual and has more power in a relationship. The masculine is more stable and level headed and makes the decisions.

In layman’s terms, the man is the leader in a relationship but the woman controls him, or has influence over him. It’s one of those paradoxes in life that will blow your mind.

In conclusion, the secret to finding true love is for a man to find a woman that will make him to what he was already planning on doing in the first place.