How to find your soul mate

Song of Solomon 2:3. . .”As the apple tree among the grove, so is my beloved among the sons.”

Why do so many people get divorced? Is it because marriage and family values is really on the decline? Statistically speaking, with overpopulation there may be as many successful marriages and families as there always were. Possibly more.

Many people admit they rushed into marriage before they got to know themselves and what they really want out of life. Your spouse is your help mate. Therefore if you don’t know what you want in life, it stands to reason you won’t know what you are looking for in a partner.

Then there are people who simply don’t want to get married. They just don’t want to be alone. Or they want to have children and the traditional family seems the right way to do it.

Many people in today’s generation say they don’t want to get married. That’s not to say they won’t since you don’t always control falling in love with someone. I’m pretty sure that even if they purpose not to get married, they have no intention of committing to a life of celibacy.

Nothing is predestined in life. The Bible doesn’t encourage marriage outside of procreation. Life’s most important relationship is with the Creator of the universe, or our true soul mate. It’s possible to be so fulfilled by divine intimacy that we don’t look for someone else on earth to complete us.

Jesus and Paul both said it is better to not marry than get divorce. It is also better to marry than to burn with passion and sleep around. Being unmarried means not having to be burdened by the cares of the world.

True love is hard to find outside of the divine fellowship. For those that believe in the law of attraction, we attract what we really want.

Today’s bible verse is Song of Solomon 2:3 and compares love to finding an apple tree in a grove. Since the feminine is the most spiritually sensitive, “she” probably draws the masculine into the relationship. So much for the man leading since he only wears the pants she tells him to wear.

The man leads by doing what his lady intuitively leads him to do because they are spiritually joined together by God long before they ever walk an aisle, or have sex for that matter. There are other ways to be naked with someone besides physically. More on that in another blog post someday.

Tribute to Mom

I have to be careful showing pictures of headstones on social media. Someone took it as a death threat. I found my mom’s side of the family’s cemetery by “accident”.

I was headed north on 75 in McKinney, Texas when I recognized a landmark that I remembered passing on the way to previous funerals. I followed a winding road back to a plot of land my maternal grandparents purchased decades ago in the small town of Climax, Texas near Princeton, Texas; where my grandparents grew up and got married in 1938 until his death on February 7, 1990.

I just missed Mother’s Day and her birthday is coming up so this picture came to mind that I took a few years ago.

What is the American Dream?

People today talk about the American Dream being a big house, white picket fence, 2.5 kids, and a car. Although that dream is dying, or evolving , into luxury apartments and an Iphone. But I don’t believe the original American Dream had anything to do with materialism; at least not until Corporate America took over everything after World War Two.

The original American Dream was freedom. The freedom to be anything you want. It still is. You are as free as you want to be. Materialism leads to economic slavery and is bondage. Of course, just like sex, it is not bondage if you are actually enjoying your job.

Most people aren’t materialistic. They are just trying to keep up with their peers. Peer pressure doesn’t stop just because you get out of high school

For me, I have this overwhelming urge to want to go against the status quo. It’s the reason I left college to try and succeed without college.

The new American Dream is working 70+ hours a week to pay for wood, hay, and stubble. If people didn’t depend on insurance as much, or healthcare in general, or go into debt to have everything, the economy would collapse

Maybe that is why they play the game. It’s not my way of wanting to die for my country.

You don’t have to make your life about work and money. If you add enough value, you can still get rich anyway. Even if you don’t get rich you can still value yourself. The secret to getting rich is knowing how rich you already are.

You can pray to God to show you how to be rich, but “He” will more than likely show you where true wealth lies; within.

The Talmud says a rich man is a person who is content with what they have. There are probably more rich poor people than poor rich people. I will let you think on that for a minute. . .or two.

If you are content with what you have and live within your means when you have little, you will be more generous if you ever attract an abundance. The abundant life Jesus was talking about was in spiritual things, unlike what the prosperity gospel teachers tell us.

Repression leads to depression

Jeremiah 17:9. . .”The heart is hopelessly dark and deceitful, a puzzle that no one can figure out. But God searches the heart and examines the mind and gets to the heart of the human, the root of things, and treats them as they really are and not as they pretend to be.” (Message Bible)

The Apostle Paul said he became all things to all people so that he may win a few. I learn more about my faith by relating to non-believers and seeing what it is about my faith that they are really rejecting. The biggest thing that comes to mind is they see Christians as repressing their desires in an attempt to live for God. I learned in 12-Step groups that repressed desires are the leading cause of mental health issues. This could explain the Religious Trauma Syndrome that many people suffer from when they leave the Church.

Repressing our desires is not the freedom that God calls us to in Christ. While our desires are natural, they are not always Godly. When we turn from our own path and seek out the path of righteousness that God laid out for us, He begins to show us a new path to take; aka being born again, or a fresh start in life.

We don’t have to struggle with our desires. Maybe they are something good that God wants us to have. We should go after these as long as the Spirit doesn’t convict us and we put God first. Every desire is basically good at its starting point because it serves a basic need that we have. Our relationship with God meets every need that we have at its core.

We don’t struggle with or repress our desires. We simply rise above them and become fully human and live the life that God calls us to live. This is what Jesus meant when He said our faith is the victory that overcomes the world.

Getting to know “them”

I begin to lose my faith when I started to have better relationships with the “them” that I wasn’t supposed to associate with.But it was an eye opening experience.

If only the established church took the time to actually relate to “them”; whether it’s people of other faiths or even the lgbt community.

Actually when you study other religions, you realize religion itself isn’t so bad when you realize that true religion is about community, relationships, taking care of each other, and being uncorrupted by the world.

Sounds like socialism almost. Better to have a liberal church than a liberal government that forces us to take care of others through taxes.In comparison to other religions, Christianity looks kind of boring. Except for progressive Christianity which seems to be the only group that is open-minded enough to learn from other religions.